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It is borne out of a cultural belief that men find sex more pleasurable if a woman's vagina is dry, and that men will reject women whose vaginas have been 'stretched out' by sex.
To achieve dryness, women insert, chalk, sand, pulverized rock, herbs, paper or sponges before sex.
They also douse their vaginas in detergents, antiseptics, alcohol and bleach.
Women in Java, Indonesia, even 'smoke out' their vaginas by standing over burning herbs.
In other areas of Indonesia, it is common to insert a cigar-shaped stick made of a plant root into the vagina.
Not only is this practice extremely painful for the women involved, it can lead to cuts, sores and inflammation in the vagina, and increases the chance of a condom breaking.
These factors increase the chance of the women contracting HIV.
The practice is known to be carried out in South and Central Africa, and Indonesia.
Similarly, a sexual health clinician and campaigner in South Africa told VICE most people are aware of the problem but it is not talked about, and hasn't received enough attention from the country's Government for policies to be drafted.
Dr Marlene Wasserman, commonly known in South Africa as Dr Eve, said the continued practice of dry sex shows the lack of education relating to equality and women's rights in the area.
'It's definitely a class issue,' she told VICE.
'Basically, a woman's reputation depends on the size of her vagina.
'Among women who are less informed and less educated, there's an unbelievable ignorance around the idea the vagina adapts to the penis.'
She explained that both men and women fail to understand that the vagina is capable of expanding during sex - and then back to its usual size afterwards.
There is also an incorrect cultural belief that if a woman has a partner with a large penis, her vagina will remain permanently 'stretched' - and future partners will think she is promiscuous.
The practice is ingrained in culture, passed between generations of women, she added.
She continued: 'Men aren't saying to women, "Put Dettol in your vagina".'
Instead, they insinuate a woman is promiscuous due to the state of her genitalia, she explained.
For women dependent on their boyfriends or husbands, attaining commitment and pleasing them is extremely important.
The idea that pain is normal or acceptable during sex has taken hold, she adds, and most women in South Africa would not think of sexual pleasure as something they necessarily have a right to.
Dr Wasserman said: 'I've been part of a task force with the World Association of Sexual Health, and we've launched the declaration of sexual rights - the right to pleasure - and we've been really pushing that.
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'Women are surprised that's one of their rights.
'We know 33 percent of women have and tolerate painful penetration. That becomes part of what they expect from sex.'
Dr Wasserman has a radio show which attempts to dispel myths about sexual health.
We know 33 per cent of women have and tolerate painful penetration. That becomes part of what they expect from sex
She also hosts seminars for young adults and parents in order to educate people about healthy sexual practices.
'It's about educating people and trying to raise awareness,' she said.
'The conversation began when we realized HIV was impacting more heterosexual women in South Africa than gay men.
'There was a drive then to say to women: "Don't put Dettol in your vagina; don't dry your vagina out. This is dangerous." But the conversation hasn't gotten going, and women are suffering.'
She draws similarities between the practice of dry sex in developing countries and the vaginoplasty operations Western women undergo in order to tighten their vagina.
'They're having their own genital mutilation,' she said of the women who opt for these procedures.
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'It's just a little more advanced and expensive than putting creams in your vagina.
'But isn't the principal the same? It's incredibly unhealthy as well to go have your vagina tightened because you want to have a honeymoon experience or have your partner think you're youthful.' -
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